The Fear of Being Seen - Remembering My Authentic Voice

In September, I wrote a blog post ... and I didn’t publish it.

At first, I told myself it was because I’d lost interest in the topic after taking so long to write it. But when I looked deeper, I realised the truth: I was afraid.

It was the first piece of content I had worked on after maternity leave, and I hadn’t noticed how much pressure I was placing on myself.
The pressure to capture attention after being quiet for so long.

The pressure to be valuable, to prove I was still worthy of being listened to.

The pressure to make it count, to share something that would reignite momentum in my business.

What piece of content could ever live up to that kind of pressure? It was never going to feel good enough.

I was scared of being judged. I overthought every word and over-explained myself for fear of being misunderstood. Around and around I went until, finally, I thought I was finished. Then I read it again ... and I was bored.

And now I see that I wasn’t bored because it took too long to write… I was bored because I had censored myself. I had edited and curated every line until there was no piece of me left in it.

I was missing from my own work.

And the whole point of creating content is to allow potential clients to get to know me... yet I had stripped every morsel of me out of it.

That realisation has sparked a deep desire within me: to release the fear of being judged that has resurfaced, and to allow myself to show up as I am now - authentically, imperfectly, me.

The Fear We Share

I know I’m not alone in feeling this way. It may show up differently for each of us, and we might call it by different names, but this fear exists in some form within us all (until we’re ready to release it).

From my work with holistic practitioners, I’ve had countless conversations that act as evidence of this. 

I've spoken to women who are scared to show up online because they worry about what family and friends will think.

I've spoken to women who have been hiding for fear of being judged by peers and colleagues.

I've spoken to women who, despite their gifts, they feel not good enough or knowledgeable enough and have an inner voice that whispers, “Who do I think I am?”

Maybe you’ve felt uneasy about charging money for your gifts. Or found yourself speaking in “safe” language to avoid sounding too “woo woo.” Maybe you’ve played small, dimmed your light, or hidden in the shadows - for fear of what might happen if you didn't.

These are all symptoms of the same wound.

The Witch Wound.

For generations, wise women, midwives, herbalists, and healers were silenced, shamed, and punished. The message was clear: our power is dangerous. Our intuition is threatening. Our voice can get us hurt.

Even though we live in a different world now, those old energetic patterns still whisper through our nervous systems. The Witch Wound is not just a metaphor, it’s a memory that lives in our collective feminine psyche.

Remembering My Authentic Voice

Instead of trying to find my authentic voice, my goal is to remember it.
I know it is already within me. I just need to clear away the conditioning that keeps it silent.

Before I had Phoebe, I was always a bit scared of pregnancy and birth. I’ve always been quite squeamish and nervous around doctors, and honestly, the idea of something growing inside me gave me the willies.

But then I got pregnant, and it was as if a wave of remembering washed over me.
I remembered that I was designed for this ... that maybe, in a past life, I’d done it before. Instantly, the fear was gone. The squeamishness, the nerves, the uncertainty, all melted away. I felt peaceful, confident, and even excited.

I had a beautiful pregnancy and a magical, natural birth. And these first ten months of motherhood have been filled with joy! (and yes, a little less sleep than I’d like ... and moments where I’d love to pee on my own! But even still, pure blessing!)

I often wish that a similar wave of remembering would wash over me in other areas of life - like when fear and self-doubt creep in around being seen. But that experience showed me something powerful: remembering is possible.

If I can remember that I was born to birth, then I can remember everything else my soul wants me to know too.

Healing the Witch Wound Through Expression

There are many healing and clearing techniques I’ll call on during this journey back to authenticity...but there’s one I can’t avoid: expression.

I can’t wait until I’m “healed” to start showing up. I need to show up now, imperfect, warts and all.

Each time I do, I teach my nervous system that it’s safe. Safe to be seen as I am. Safe to speak from my heart. Safe to be me.

My value isn’t in knowing everything, having it all figured out, or appearing perfectly put together. My gift is being able to see you.

I can see you better than you can see yourself. I can see the vibrant light that radiates through you and where it wants to take you. And I can help you see it too. That is my gift.

And it’s safe for me to share it.

Living and Leading Authentically in Business

And so the more I allow myself to show up as I am, the more magnetic I become, not because I’m trying to be, but because authenticity carries its own frequency.

When we lead from our truth, we attract those who are meant to walk beside us.

Each time I share from my heart, I reclaim my voice and I invite you to do the same.

Reclaiming My Voice & Inviting You to Do the Same

If this resonates with you, I’d love to invite you to join me and other like-minded souls for my  Group Expansion Session — The Courage to Be Seen on Monday, October 20th at 8:30pm.

Together, we’ll release the fear of being seen so that we can show up authentically and follow our calling with confidence.

Click here to learn more and book your spot.